Excuse the rant. It’s the wedding stress talking.
It’s not easy to get married in the Philippines. Of course, it’s not easy to get married anywhere, but in the Philippines, it can be quite harsh.
Put aside the months of planning with the small budget you have, the irony of how everything costs all your limbs and more, the crazy treasure hunting you have to do for items that’ll make your wedding unique, and the fact that you have to stay as beautiful as you can while being stressed.
Why? Because in the Philippines, the biggest problem is related to the guests.
You don’t only have to invite your relatives, but you’ll also have to invite your relatives’ relatives. The whole barangay has to come AND be a part of the entourage. You’ll have to take pictures with and smile for people you hardly know. You HAVE to because otherwise, there’ll be silent (and sometimes not-so silent) wars to deal with.
Is that the worst? Of course not, because during weddings in the Philippines, guests have the favorite pastime of nitpicking every single thing about the wedding. The food isn’t good enough. The program is boring. The gowns look gaudy. The songs are annoying. The favors can be so much better. There is no end to the necessity to please everyone.
Why can’t they just feel thankful that they were invited? More importantly, why can’t they just be happy for the newlyweds and wish them the best in the new chapter of their lives?
As much as I appreciate the festivities that we have in the Philippines, I can’t help but envy the weddings I get to witness through photos from Western countries because they can get away with more intimate, less formal, and simply happy weddings. It’s obvious how happy everyone is - newlyweds, family members, and guests alike.
This is what I fear the most for when the fiance and I finally get married and I can only hope that our guests will prove this entire blog post wrong.
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