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I don’t know how much this qualifies as a guilty pleasure but I love watching Desperate Housewives and love Tom and Lynette Scavo’s storyline most of all. I was heartbroken when they broke up and I’m still hoping they get back together.
Lynette is crazy and controlling, but she loves her family to death. She’s strong and that often comes off as abrasive but she’s gotten through so much because of it. Tom is just as strong, I think, but in an opposite way because he’s silently strong. He’s loving and patient, often mistaken for being henpecked, but I think it takes a great man to be okay with that kind of public perception because that’s what he thinks his wife needs.
Today, I saw a rerun of Everybody Ought to Have a Maid (S06E05), and got teary-eyed from Roy and Tom’s conversation, which happened after Lynette fired Roy for joking about how she doesn’t respect Tom.

Tom: Hey Roy, can I talk to you?Roy: Sure thing, pally. Here, take a load off. If it’s about me getting into it with your wife though, I have to stop you first and say I’m sorry. I mean, I know times have changed, but a man’s still a man. And you deserve to have your wife respect you.Tom: She respects me plenty, Roy. Here’s the thing you gotta understand about Lynette. She grew up without her dad. Her mom was a drinker. So she had to be responsible for everyone.Roy: Yeah, well, that’s rough.Tom: Yeah. It left her with this constant fear that everything could suddenly fall apart. And that’s why she needs to control everything. Of course, she can’t. Nobody can. But… She can control me… If I let her. So I do. Because it makes her feel safe. And that is my job, as her husband… to make her feel safe.
Roy: You’re a good man, Scavo.
Tom: I try.

How can I not admire that?
One other scene that I loved and can’t forget was between Lynette and Tom in Pleasant Little Kingdom (S07E09). Tom got angry because he resented the fact that Lynette never tells her friends about his good qualities but always notices the bad ones. Lynette revealed her reasons and it broke me.
You can watch the scene here (I had to search for a while for it but glad I found it). Here’s Lynette’s quote, though, if you don’t want to watch the video:

Lynette: For almost twenty years, all I’ve heard is how incredibly lucky I am to have a guy like you. So if I don’t constantly brag about how great you are, it’s only because I don’t want to be reminded of how much I don’t deserve you.

I just cried again while typing that haha.
I’m guessing that if you’re still reading this then you’ve gotten at least an inkling of why they’re my favorite Wisteria Lane couple. I sometimes feel like Lynette because I have an incredibly amazing partner and best friend. He’s kind and nice, wants to make the world a better place, extremely talented but is still on a quest for self-improvement, patient, encouraging and supportive, funny and sweet, loving and really wonderful…and well, I can be a bitch.
But the one thing that’s different with Lynette and myself is that I don’t see “my luck” as something to be shameful about because that’s not all I am. Yes, I can be a bitch and more often than not, I probably am, but I know that I also love this person enough that I’m doing everything I can to be worthy of being loved as much as he’s loving me. I know that although people tell me how lucky I am with him, I shouldn’t be sad because I know that he knows that he’s just lucky with me.
And isn’t that what every relationship aims for? To constantly work at being the best for each other and to bring out the best in each other?

I don’t know how much this qualifies as a guilty pleasure but I love watching Desperate Housewives and love Tom and Lynette Scavo’s storyline most of all. I was heartbroken when they broke up and I’m still hoping they get back together.

Lynette is crazy and controlling, but she loves her family to death. She’s strong and that often comes off as abrasive but she’s gotten through so much because of it. Tom is just as strong, I think, but in an opposite way because he’s silently strong. He’s loving and patient, often mistaken for being henpecked, but I think it takes a great man to be okay with that kind of public perception because that’s what he thinks his wife needs.

Today, I saw a rerun of Everybody Ought to Have a Maid (S06E05), and got teary-eyed from Roy and Tom’s conversation, which happened after Lynette fired Roy for joking about how she doesn’t respect Tom.

Tom: Hey Roy, can I talk to you?

Roy: Sure thing, pally. Here, take a load off. If it’s about me getting into it with your wife though, I have to stop you first and say I’m sorry. I mean, I know times have changed, but a man’s still a man. And you deserve to have your wife respect you.

Tom: She respects me plenty, Roy. Here’s the thing you gotta understand about Lynette. She grew up without her dad. Her mom was a drinker. So she had to be responsible for everyone.

Roy: Yeah, well, that’s rough.

Tom: Yeah. It left her with this constant fear that everything could suddenly fall apart. And that’s why she needs to control everything. Of course, she can’t. Nobody can. But… She can control me… If I let her. So I do. Because it makes her feel safe. And that is my job, as her husband… to make her feel safe.

Roy: You’re a good man, Scavo.

Tom: I try.

How can I not admire that?

One other scene that I loved and can’t forget was between Lynette and Tom in Pleasant Little Kingdom (S07E09). Tom got angry because he resented the fact that Lynette never tells her friends about his good qualities but always notices the bad ones. Lynette revealed her reasons and it broke me.

You can watch the scene here (I had to search for a while for it but glad I found it). Here’s Lynette’s quote, though, if you don’t want to watch the video:

Lynette: For almost twenty years, all I’ve heard is how incredibly lucky I am to have a guy like you. So if I don’t constantly brag about how great you are, it’s only because I don’t want to be reminded of how much I don’t deserve you.

I just cried again while typing that haha.

I’m guessing that if you’re still reading this then you’ve gotten at least an inkling of why they’re my favorite Wisteria Lane couple. I sometimes feel like Lynette because I have an incredibly amazing partner and best friend. He’s kind and nice, wants to make the world a better place, extremely talented but is still on a quest for self-improvement, patient, encouraging and supportive, funny and sweet, loving and really wonderful…and well, I can be a bitch.

But the one thing that’s different with Lynette and myself is that I don’t see “my luck” as something to be shameful about because that’s not all I am. Yes, I can be a bitch and more often than not, I probably am, but I know that I also love this person enough that I’m doing everything I can to be worthy of being loved as much as he’s loving me. I know that although people tell me how lucky I am with him, I shouldn’t be sad because I know that he knows that he’s just lucky with me.

And isn’t that what every relationship aims for? To constantly work at being the best for each other and to bring out the best in each other?

#thoughts  
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Remember that wedding supplier I was talking about that one time?

They finally called me…but called because they thought I was someone else who’s getting married this weekend. WHAT?

That’s a major fail moment. I’m SO HAPPY that I didn’t get them. But I do hope they find the right number soon because it’d be really terrible for that couple if they don’t.

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when service providers get famous and their heads grow 10 sizes bigger

When planning a wedding, you learn a lot of things. Like how celebrities have it so much easier just because they’re, well, celebrities.

There’s this one supplier who was one of my dream suppliers since the fiance proposed last year, so there was no hesitation to get in touch with him/her right away, as soon as we started thinking of actual wedding preps. That was February 5. We didn’t hear from them at all weeks later, so when there was a bridal fair in town and they were one of the suppliers there, the fiance and I decided to go (just for them, and this one other supplier who ended up not showing up even if they said they’d be there to meet with us). At that point, I was still giving them the benefit of the doubt because I knew how busy they were because they’re really so popular these days.

At the fair, we talked to one of the AEs and we thought she wasn’t as friendly as we expected and did not seem to be on top of things either. I can take someone being unfriendly but if it’s an account/event (especially a wedding), and you’re an AE, you’d better exude an aura of organized mastery. We left with a schedule for a meeting.

The meeting day came, around 2-3 weeks after that, and we actually enjoyed ourselves and thought that the person we talked to (who was the main supplier/owner) knew her service well. We felt our spirits lifting up. It was a happy “wedding errands” day.

Until 3 months later and they still haven’t gotten back to us regarding the things we asked for to make our decision, after we had emailed, texted and called numerous times. It doesn’t really matter, at this point, if they do decide that they’ll give us the time of day because we’ve already decided to set our sights elsewhere.

NO MATTER HOW FAMOUS YOU ARE, IF YOU GIVE LESS THAN EXCELLENT SERVICE TO AT LEAST ONE CLIENT, THAT’S GOING TO MAR YOUR NAME. FAME GOES AWAY BUT GREAT SERVICE WILL CARRY YOUR NAME THROUGH THE YEARS.

I’ve heard so many bad things about this supplier in the past weeks, and it just makes me feel so much better to have decided to let go of this once dream supplier.

Especially when recently, I found out that they were so welcoming and responsive to a celebrity who’s getting married. Whether a client is a celebrity or not, there shouldn’t be any special treatments…unless the special treatment is given to ALL clients.

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Hindsight

I just mentally kicked myself in the butt. Why didn’t I think of making Hunger Games sugar cookies instead?

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Excuse the rant. It’s the wedding stress talking.

It’s not easy to get married in the Philippines. Of course, it’s not easy to get married anywhere, but in the Philippines, it can be quite harsh.

Put aside the months of planning with the small budget you have, the irony of how everything costs all your limbs and more, the crazy treasure hunting you have to do for items that’ll make your wedding unique, and the fact that you have to stay as beautiful as you can while being stressed.

Why? Because in the Philippines, the biggest problem is related to the guests.

You don’t only have to invite your relatives, but you’ll also have to invite your relatives’ relatives. The whole barangay has to come AND be a part of the entourage. You’ll have to take pictures with and smile for people you hardly know. You HAVE to because otherwise, there’ll be silent (and sometimes not-so silent) wars to deal with.

Is that the worst? Of course not, because during weddings in the Philippines, guests have the favorite pastime of nitpicking every single thing about the wedding. The food isn’t good enough. The program is boring. The gowns look gaudy. The songs are annoying. The favors can be so much better. There is no end to the necessity to please everyone.

Why can’t they just feel thankful that they were invited? More importantly, why can’t they just be happy for the newlyweds and wish them the best in the new chapter of their lives?

As much as I appreciate the festivities that we have in the Philippines, I can’t help but envy the weddings I get to witness through photos from Western countries because they can get away with more intimate, less formal, and simply happy weddings. It’s obvious how happy everyone is - newlyweds, family members, and guests alike.

This is what I fear the most for when the fiance and I finally get married and I can only hope that our guests will prove this entire blog post wrong.

Photos found through Google Images

(Source: lorraelena)

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It’s another The Hunger Games post…or is it?

I may just be biased but I don’t like it when people say that The Hunger Games is just a replica of the better and more original Battle Royale. True, the Japanese story was published and made into a movie first but that doesn’t mean Suzanne Collins copied from Koushun Takami, nor does it mean that it’s the better version.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that The Hunger Games is better than Battle Royale either, most especially because I haven’t read or seen Battle Royale and it wouldn’t be fair of me to choose with just one eye open. All I’m saying is, people can certainly focus on the most shallow of things, and in this case, it’s focusing on the most basic element of these two stories. If that’s all there is, then why not compare The Hunger Games to The Lottery by Shirley Jackson?

I believe that no idea is truly original because we all get our ideas from somewhere, someone, something. What can become original, however, is our interpretation of these already existing and known ideas and the way we present our interpretation to the public.

What I really like with Suzanne Collins’ interpretation is her intricate storytelling and how she’s able to sustain the characteristic tension of the story. All throughout the novels, she’s able to create scenarios that are so elaborately described that you won’t have any trouble imagining what she’s saying and pages that make you want to turn them to get to the next one. Technical writing skill and grammar are one thing, but being an effective storyteller, to be able to touch so many people’s minds and hearts with words, is of a whole ‘nother level.

Most importantly, rather than negatively comparing these two creations, I think readers should try to figure out the insight that these stories evoke. Why do we have dystopian tales and why are they popular, especially these days? Why are stories of teenagers killing each other popular? How are these themes reflected in the real world? What do these stories tell us about our society, about mankind? What lessons can we take from them?

What can we do to make ourselves better?

I don’t think a world like in The Hunger Games or in Battle Royale is impossible. In fact, the scary part is that it’s all very possible. We’re used to central authorities, violence, hunger, wars, suffering, and many other sad societal ills. That’s also why these novels are relevant and resonant.

But isn’t that a problem?

I don’t want to live in a world where humans, especially children, are forced to experience supposedly unimaginable horrors and I’m still holding on to the hope that I (and everyone else, generations after) won’t ever have to.

In the end, these are all stories of humans and our inhumanity. The challenge, I guess, is realizing that and finding a way to regain our humanity and be worthy of the name human.

(Source: lorraelena)

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The Hunger Games

Just in case some people still haven’t seen it, I won’t talk about the details much. These are mostly my feelings about the movie adaptation - HOW I LOVED IT.

I watched The Hunger Games yesterday and I’m glad that it didn’t disappoint. I loved Jen and Josh then, even when a lot of people were complaining about their casting, and I love them even more now. I think they’re perfect for their roles. If Suzanne Collins approved their casting, who am I to say no right? She is, after all, the one who created their characters.

Jen’s phenomenal with her acting and that part where she yelled out, “I volunteer!” is going to stay with me for the rest of my life. I kid you not. She was beautiful, athletic, passionate, loving, and someone I can believe to bring a nation together to fight for their freedom. And Josh, I can’t even begin to describe how I feel that he’s really so much like Peeta. He’s funny and charming, but also he brought the right kind of silent depth that the character has.

I’ve seen a lot of people’s complaints about how the movie lacked a lot of parts, but these are probably people who don’t take into account the limitations of a movie and its making. If it was possible to make an 8 or 10-hour long movie with ALL the details of the book, I’m sure they would have. I have a few things that I would have liked done better but I understand the work that goes into making something like this happen and I think they did the best job that they could.

I love the movie adaptation for all the reasons that others seem to not like it. I like how it was subtle, that they kept the tension going for the entire movie, how it stayed as faithful as it could. I like how it’s unlike all other blockbuster films, that there’s more silence than ridiculously dramatic scores or songs, that you’d have to notice all the details to really appreciate the intricate weaving that Gary Ross and the entire crew did to make this film the right way.

Can’t wait to watch it again! Hopefully it stays in theaters for at least 2 more weeks.

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Home

I caught the homily of the mass at Greenbelt chapel this afternoon and I can’t feel anything but gratefulness that God found a way to bring me his message, loud and clear.

The priest was talking about how a lot of animals have internal homing devices that lead them back home. He then contrasted that with humans and how a lot of us feel lost, alone, and are without a home.

Where is our home? Is the earth where we go back to after our time in this world ends?

But wasn’t it the breath of God that gave us life?

It’s my God who is my home and I honestly do feel that more now than ever before. I believe that He hasn’t given me challenges that I can’t overcome, and He has filled my lifetime with blessings I can hardly count. I feel His grace and I am nothing but grateful. There are times when I forget, but I know that if my internal homing device does exist, it leads only to Him.

#life   #thoughts  
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I haven’t been online much these days, only on Twitter and for work. Why? Well, aside from the fact that I’m spending time with family in my hometown, I’m also quite hooked on Mockingjay right now.

Yup, 3rd in the Hunger Games trilogy. Scheduled to finish it tonight. So far, I’ve been able to finish The Hunger Games and Catching Fire in less than a day each. That’s something especially since I haven’t been reading ANYTHING in almost a year.

As sad as it may be for a lot of people, I’m actually proud to say that this trilogy has gotten me back to reading. I used to devour books like a hungry orphan.

But anyway, enough of that because really, who cares whether I read or not? I really just wanted to share how lovely this trilogy has been and how I’ve become really attached to it.

More importantly, I would like to say that I’m very sad about the way things have gone for those who have been affected and devastated by Typhoon Sendong.

You can read updates on the Philippine Red Cross website and donate through them too.

Here are other links posted on pinoytumblr/Rock Ed Philippines’ FB page on how to donate and help out the victims of the rains and floods. Some more here.

It’s very bad, just look at the rising number of the dead and how the typhoon’s affecting different parts of the country.

I know a lot of people will think prayer won’t do any good right now but it won’t hurt to keep a little positive faith in our hearts, especially so close to Christmas, but it certainly won’t hurt to do something about it as well.

Let’s do what we can.

#life   #thoughts   #typhoon  
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Hello Saturday and the thoughts that come to me when bored

We’re a creative nation. No questions about that. But we lack in discipline.

We don’t follow rules, even with something as simple as crossing the street. There’s a stop light for pedestrians for a reason. We sign contracts without reading through them first and then complain afterwards that we didn’t know about the conditions. We talk with beautiful words but tire at the thought of following through.

We need to develop a culture of integrity, accountability and responsibility.

We can do this. At one point in time, we were a successful and developed nation. We can do it again.

#hope   #thoughts